Let Them Help You. Jesus did.

The sky every day of retreat despite predictions of rain. View of our provincial center from our cemetery.

The sky every day of retreat despite predictions of rain. View of our provincial center from our cemetery.

This will be a short post because during my week retreat, the projects have piled up!  A recent experience gave me an idea for this post. At lunch I was with someone who was struggling to open her ice cream bar. She pulled and pulled on the paper and even used her napkin to get a better grasp. I stretched out my strong “piano hands” to help, but she wanted to do it herself. Eventually she was successful. Why do we often refuse help? I too am guilty of this. I say things like, “No, thank you” and “I can carry it myself.” (And then sometimes I suffer the consequences!) Our stubbornness in doing things by ourselves could be because we are Americans, known for independence. I can think of two cases where people were in dire straits but either too proud or too ashamed to ask for help. So they were miserable.

Jesus was not afraid to ask for help. He enlisted twelve apostles and seventy disciples to carry on his ministry. He asked a woman—a Samaritan at that—for a drink of water and the sinner Zacchaeus for a meal. Neither did Jesus refuse help when it was offered. He let the woman anoint him for burial and in the end was buried in a borrowed tomb.

Doing a good deed for someone makes us feel good. Being rebuffed might make us think twice before we offer to assist people in the future. When our acts of charity are thwarted, I hope we get the heavenly points anyway. Yes, performing acts of charity is good, but so is accepting someone’s charity. In fact, letting someone help you is a form of charity.

When have you appreciated being helped? When have you not asked for help and regretted it?


  1. Cheryl Zellhoefer on August 12, 2015 at 3:24 pm

    A wise nun (my principal) told me, “Without takers, there would be no reason to have givers.”

    I have to remember that sometimes when I am on the “taking” end!

  2. Kathleen Glavich, SND on August 13, 2015 at 2:52 pm

    Yes, imagine if everyone refused help, Cheryl!

  3. Sr. Juliemarie McDonald on September 28, 2015 at 1:28 pm

    Kathleen, your writing of giving and receiving helped me with a struggle I have been having requesting help from others. You have given me the
    challenge that fear I have of giving up some of my cherished independence.Thank you for the inspiration. Jm

  4. Kathleen Glavich, SND on September 28, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Ah, I was hoping this blog would encourage people not to be afraid to ask for help and to accept it when offered. Thank you for letting me know that my goal was reached— at least by influencing one person!

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